I am only reacting HERE VH. I havent reacted to her comments in a long time. I stopped doing that hoping she would see that I didnt care and would stop. She still hasnt and I dont know if she will. They both think that I am home crying over my xh. I miss him, I still love him but I no longer sob myself to sleep over him. I have good days and every now and then a bad day. It mostly has been about my son lately. As far as emergency, I hope I never have. I am speaking of a true emergency. What I am worried about is....this is the beginning of an adult life for my son. Some day there will be grandkids and I would hope that we could all get along for son and his family. I think that is a ways off though.
In the beginning of this I was told NO CONTACT. I was thinking ok, no contact for a week or two, I can do this. I didnt know they meant NO CONTACT for A YEAR or so. I have backslid a few times but have gotten better. The NO CONTACT has been going longer for me now and I hope I can go even longer, because its what I need to do.