Not so new but still seeking advice

[PortlandDad]

DC, I've personally witnessed this "11th hour" gamesmanship with my WAW. At first, she promised to come back after a month of having my daughter with her in Germany. At the end: nope, sorry. I want more time, or we can go ahead and divorce.

I gave her the time because I was afraid of losing her. Another 30 days of almost no contact. At the end, nope. sorry, I need more time or we can divorce.

I gave in again out of fear of losing her.

I learned my lesson. The next time I gave her a deadline, I let her know that it would be me filing if it passed without an answer from her. This week, shes been bustling to get her stuff in order to come back. No fear and no more cake-eating!