Thanks, I am doing OK..IT's is really sad here at work. Most of the people will be let go this Thursday. (Most of them were so hurt that they have not come back to since they were told they were being laid off. I am still "employed" until June 30th. If I want the "package" I have to stay until then.(kind of a one sided contract). As for my home life? Well things are a little strange. Wife has been including me in more of her activates. Like when she is out with son in the past she would take him to Cold stone Ice cream and just get her and him something. Now she calls home to see if I want anything. She actually "made my plate" for dinner the other night. But as usual any attempt to re connect intimately is rejected. She is softening up a little though. Not planning on even looking for work for at least a month after my last day. It's summer time and my son is out of school. I am planning on taking him to the San Fran. Zoo, The museum if sciences in golden gate park, Alcatraz Island and a whole lot of fishing and camping. The day after 300 people were let go here, the company down the hill from us let 240 people go. Anyway I can't sweat the things I have no control over right? Take care and I am still here reading....
Dr Love
You need my love baby oh so bad You're not the only one I've ever had And if I say I wanna set you free Don't you know you'll be in misery They call me Doctor Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
"But as usual any attempt to re connect intimately is rejected."
What constitutes an "attempt"?
Glad your tests came back ok, sorry about your job
Hey OT,
Long time since you got on my case.(LOL).. Well after I had written that I do see a little improvement coming along. David C. says that "women love Drama" maybe my job loss has given her some. Maybe my job loss has helped her esteem putting us on equal grounds. Last night she made a nice dinner and after when she was washing dishes I brought her my plate and put my hands on her waist and thanked her for dinner and said it was great. And she did NOT tense up as "usual" when I touch her. I have kind of been doing my own thing these last few days. NOT pursuing Wife and it does seem that she is going out of her way to stay in contact. Maybe I was the Wimpy Clingy Husband...don't know anyway... My son has 6th grade "summer camp in two weeks. (He will be gone for a week) let's see what happens. This will be the first week wife and I have been alone for a long time. The Friday of that week I am going to TELL wife I am taking her out for dinner. Could be interesting...
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Yes, you were the wimpy clingy husband, glad to remove any doubt for you No, I am not kidding...
Good idea to tell her that you are taking her out to dinner. At dinner, tell her that when she gets home she will take her clothes of and you will be giving her two orgasms by whatever non-IC means work best for her. Tell her after that, you will consider whether or not you want to bring your penis into the activities.
Make a hot sexual experience for her the single goal of the advances and anything that happens. If you can go into it with that attitude, you may have some success. If you go into it with the attitude of a long-deprived husband who is owed a lay, all you will do is go backwards, even if you manage to get laid.
I don't know OT. That might be a little too forward at this time (at least saying it like that). I am planning on being aggressive though.
And YES you are right Rob. NO POUTING.. Just a "as if".. In fact I was thinking that even if we did "do something" the next day I would still act "as if"
OT she still has her defensives up. Yes every once in a while she lets them down for a little bit but they pop back up again. Timing is everything. If I can "penetrate" her defensives when they are down just once I think we will be on the road to recovery. I really do think it is a big step for her. Maybe she is afraid that we will end up back where we started (her unhappy) I am not sure but I am doing a great job of leaving that "wimp" behind and I think it shows.
SOOOO today on the way home from work I get a flat tire..Man what is next?...Tomorrow it going to be a no work day I just know it. Over half the people are leaving and most of the day everyone will be saying their goodbyes and there will be tears.(and I will be getting allot of hugs.. ) A big order came in today at work for a system that I am the only one that knows how to build it. I so feel like saying "Oh well you let me go do it yourself" But I won't I don't want to burn any bridges...
Well it's bed time Later Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
No, I am not kidding...
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