I thank you for your advice and your opinions. I must explain that he was 23 when we got together. He will be 27 in August. I agree that I need to move on. I doubt seriously after the hurtful things I said to him that he could see past that and understand my hurt and how that is what drove me to say what I did. I'm crushed. I know I can go on and I thank you for your time. As for going totally dark. I took him his mail today and left it. Did not see him. I also left him the book The Five Love Languages. Maybe it can help him understand what he needs to do in his future relationships. I know his relationship with my ex best friend will crumble as they do not really have anything other than their misery to talk about. They can only shop and go to so many concerts before they will actually need to talk about something other than how miserable each one of them are. I do not suspect that he will come crawling back then. There has been too much said and done from both sides. Which is very sad as I have never loved anyone like I did him. I just wasn't speaking his love language. :*(
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."