Yes the hanky panky does help....what really helps is to look at reality smack between the eyes. The reality is that the people our spouses have become do not deserve us. Are we all perfect? Probably not, however, there is no way that I will ever admit that we do not deserve better than what we were left with. An empty shell of a person....a person who is so much into themselves that he / she would put themselves before a marriage, a family, their own flesh and blood. Well, there are good people out there. Folks who can appreciate the kind of people we have become, who appreciate what we stand for. People who have morals and who have alot to offer. There is a whole world out there. One shell of a person should not affect us forever....
