Hello all,

Thank you Ali for taking the time and effort to post. I really am taking your advice to heart and I also read butterflymom's thread the other night.

Smartcookie! I'll catch up with you too.

So, got a text from H today - "I'm going to try and cut the tree this afternoon. Do you want me to get something to eat?"
I replied - sure. When I arrived he was cooking dinner. For a brief moment it was like old times - H in kitchen, me taking care of the dogs, checking the mail, watching the news. It didn't last long as he told me he had written out a proposal and would email it to me. I was pleasant and non-emotional (I'm SO proud of this - it took me a long time to get my emotions in check). He asked if I'd had any more thoughts about what I wanted and I had to remind him that my students are performing next week. He knows that takes all my time and energy, so he didn't push it and said it could wait til after that (gee, thanks).

He's busy with end of semester work too so he left right after eating. He did manage to add "Well, we need to decide something soon as I have limited time". Translation - he wants the D as soon as possible, at the latest by August so he can move. Some of you remember that his current job is ending and he's only looking for work in OW's town 200 miles away.

He wished me good luck on my show. This still stings alot because for the past 14 years he has always helped with it and taken lots of photographs. I miss this terribly. But I thanked him and thanked him for dinner and he went on his merry way back to OW's for the weekend and said "See you next Wednesday!" Um, ok.


Me 56
H 47
Married 21 years
No children
Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself".
Ow Bomb 8/07
H filed 6/08
D final 2/05/10