Sure, two people who are divorced could be piecing, unless someone is being a real nitpicker. But, piecing takes two people invested in working on a long-term committed R. That is not happening.
A lot of people on these boards push things and jump into the piecing forum and attitude when they are the only person really in that kind of R. (Which, of course, means that they aren't really in that kind of R.) This hasty move both undermines their chances of reconciliation and tends to keep them stuck in old ways of thinking/doing.
Just because they can have fun together does not mean that they are at the point where trying to pull together a long-term exclusive, committed, romantic R is on the table. I don't think it will serve Pam well to act like that's what it means. That just keeps her firmly in her standard place in this cycle of hers. And, it very much crowds out the space XH needs to genuinely figure out what he wants.
