I Never Imagined Being Here

[pearlharbr]

I took her for granted and kept the marriage on auto-pilot. I just always assumed that we were the high-school sweethearts that would be together forever. I didn't take the time or make the effort to stop and ask her how things are going in a sincere way. I was caught up in my own life and didn't place much effort in understanding what her needs are and how they have changed.

Ah yes, I knew our sitchs were a lot alike. We aren't hs sweethearts but I did make thos same assumptions. Lesson learned.

I was a very poor listener. When she would try and talk to me I quickly focused on finding an answer/solution instead of just listening and truly understanding.

This is a very common trait in male communication style. If you're really interested in learning more about this I highly recommend reading You Just Don't Understand by Deborah Tannen.

Sorry about the comment about pretending to like running. Some of the things they say are very hurtful but keep in mind the DB adage, "Believe none of what they say and only half of what they do."

I know it's hard. I didn't think I would ever be happy without xBF. But now is the time to explore what your life alone would look like. That's why I keep harping on you to use this time to work on yourself. That's what the GAL activities are for. You are building a life that you are happy in and then you see where your R stands.