K- I do know you mean - but all she said was that she had no idea that he would be coming around...
And that she had gone out of her way to ensure that such difficult circumstances wouldn't happen - which is fine -but that for me still doesn't clear up the fact that I have to deal with H's comments about OM when I see him...its one thing keeping him and me separate -but from what comes out of H's mouth is something else to deal with...
For example -over the last 2 months:-
"I'm going to play at OM's tonight and having a BBQ, we're having friends round"
When I woke up I said "White rabbits" to mummy and then OM said...
When I got him ready for bed the other night he had Mummy's t-shirt on underneath his top - that was because "I stayed at OM's house and that was the "vest" I could sleep in"
And then this weekend coming W and H are going off to The Lakes I think, I would put money on the fact that OM will be part of that party too...
So - although I want to trust her with our son's well being I'm afraid that 2 years worth of cheating and lying,of covering up and subterfuge don't give me any confidence that she is looking out for anyone apart from herself - and that as much as she would like to pretend that alls ok with H and that he's accepted it -he hasn't...he's a very confused little boy who hangs onto me at night-time and wants lots of hugs and re-assurances -who comes into my bed at 2 in the morning...
And I'm not overlooking the fact that I was a DAM...I was - with medals and bar!!!
