Glad to hear from you. Thank you for the response I will use these three 180's with your advice.
For what it is worth she has texted me nine times over the last two days, most of it child related but a couple of others thrown in that really did not require texting. I went home to pick up the children for dinner and stay over, I put a nice shirt and trousers on, some after shave etc, she did not utter a word which I did not expect. She was communitative without being friendly and she all the time I was there I tried to initiate eye contact, but she never did once. She kept her head down all the time.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years