Lan, Please act coldly and in a calculated way to protect youself. No more DBing. Before you confront W further get professional advice - legal,finacial, spiritual to protect youself. Get your head out of the sand and ACT now. I'm begining to think this DBing stuff does us LBS's a huge disservice by goving these bad spouses a lot of rope - the only rope they deserve is one to hang themselves. You Must act smartly now Lan, talk to W later if needed but cover your ads first. And get that BP attended to. I'm sending this from my phone so pardon the bad typing.