Hi Rob, I've been through those ruts a few times since we physically separated in October - but, like you, I do find that the best way to face them is to get up and "stop being non-productive and get to where I should be." In fact, that's exactly what I've been telling myself this morning as I've been trying to get refocused on my goals.
It doesn't surprise me much that she's nice to you when she's single - she just has so many unresolved issues - that the tension of her feelings must just throw her for a tailspin.
