If you cant be honest about the things you do, if they cause you shame, maybe you shouldnt do them!!!
For gods sake! Is she really threatening you with a RO? She cant even come up with a realistic threat? Slander, libel, you know, something that would at least make a tiny bit of sense?
Neither my W nor in-laws know anything about the law. They have a friend who is a lawyer, but they make up half-truths and distortions and run to get advice, and then when they try running that to court they wonder why they don't get anything.
My W is also being advised by OM (alcoholic who lives with his parents), another neighbor (illegal immigrant who has no job/responsibilities), and one of her long-term friends (another person who used to self-injure) so I'm sure her panel of "experts" isn't giving her the best advice.
Since I believe my W suffers from BPD it is fairly certain that as long as I'm "split-bad" there can be no effective communication.
What I say: "W I love you and want to work on the marriage." What W hears: "W it is all your fault and you can never have fun you need to do the dishes and quit complaining."
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
