I will do that i think she was very surprised i didnt want to talk last night, so im pretty confident that she will try and call tonight espically since D3 didnt want to talk to her last night.
As far as FIL I will always be respectful to him is of course my W's father and the only parent figure that she has ever had in her life. I will not hold my negative thoughts about his involvement against him and i will not dwell on them any longer im going to do what is best for me and my daughter and like you said burt It is whats best for us and if my wife stays it will be a great byproduct. I still am upset but i guess today im having a good day so far.
thanks for the support you are helping get me through this with all your advice and i will keep following it.