Thanks for sharing the news! As Puppy says, stay detached, see where it leads. Remember your emotions are on alert right now, this is a baby step. Validate his communications and build baby steps before running full steam ahead. Your role is to become his confidant. Be a friend, not a spouse. Build a new relationship from there.
Your H, has a ton of crap going on in his head. Just as DB suggests we get our own houses in order, your H needs to do the same BEFORE he returns home. What you said about him figuring himself out is exactly correct.
