I asked her if she would take the LL test. She responded as I would have predicted: rolling her eyes, looking generally disgusted, and asking if this was "something I got out of a book". She then agreed to take it.
Well, she got the email, but this evening told me that she didn't take it (and most likely never will) because she just didn't feel like it.
I had a short discussion with my W last night in which she told me why she did not take the test...
She could not get past the wording of the questions. If you have read the test, the questions are very directly stated "what do you want from your Spouse" - ie, do you feel more loved if your H buys you a gift, or touches you lovingly. Her emotional response right now is "Neither"
The questions are not designed with a WAS in mind. I was hoping that she could look past that aspect of the test and interpret the questions genericly, but she can't.
She apologized and said she just can't answer or even think about answering questions like that right now. I told her I understood, that she should feel no pressure, and should just delete the email I sent her.
Lesson learned and advice to other LBS's - Don't ask your WAS to take the 5 love languages test, unless you can find another version of the quiz that is generic and does not ask them directly about their relationship with you.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
