Your initial question was a good one. Was I tempted? Honestly, I'd have to say yes I was although I had the good sense not to since I knew how much I'd hate myself for it afterwards. When she texts now I answer her pleasantly and politely but I never initiate that first contact. I figure if I play it right I'm not even going to have to get to the stage of letting her down gently. She'll just lose interest I'm sure.
I think you've completely nailed it when you said she was insecure. I've had that impression myself since we met. Her last relationship wasn't a good one from what I hear. He put her down all the time until she started to believe it. she was with the same guy for 15 years. They even have 3 kids together. Trust me, this is something I'm really not looking to get involved in.
Just last night I discovered a reason to why I may have acted with her as I did. I was reading over a bit of 'No More Mr Nice Guy' again when I noticed that nice guys seem to be attracted to people who need help. This woman would definitely fall in to that category. Well, that's my theory anyway.
Basically, if I can get another friend out of all this, I'll be happy enough. If she can't accept just being a casual friend, I'll nip it in the bud.
Kev
Me: 32, Wife: 22 Son: 2 Married: 2 years Separated: January 5th 2009
Sometimes you have to become lost before you can find yourself.
