hhmmm that's an easy one. You say here take the kids on so and so night and bring them back at so and so time. You don't need to explain. Just state the facts in a business like fashion then smile and wave... leave him wondering. Make sure you get out without those kids and he doens't need to know what you are doing (even if you go spend 2 hours in a book store followed by 1 hour at the library) I even only told my kids that I was going out with friends. Sometimes I was and sometimes I wasn't. At least once a week do this and make it a weekend night for good measure.
Give that man something to wonder about will ya?
Thanks Sandy!
I guess he is going to need to see if my BIL and SIL mind if he has the kids over there for visits, since right now he will not be getting much past the threshold of my front door. I cannot let him back in here to destroy the kids with his playacting of happy family. Prior to deployment, his visitation consisted of Mondays and Thursdays from 4-7 and every other Saturday from 10-8. D9's counseling kills the Thursday visitation, as I will not let him pick and choose which kids he takes with him. I guess it is Mondays for now, too, as the weekends are killed with family things. In addition, he will have to be responsible for their homework getting done on Mondays, too.
Luckily, D17 watches the kids for me to go out once an a while, and quite honestly, I have become a bit of a homebody. Quiet music and reading is how I like to spend my down time. the summer concerts are coming, though, so that will be changing, too!
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
