I think the hardest part about piercing is that you are now forced to put all of the things you have learned from DB into practice.
There is no way to just give lip service and hang up the phone and go dark for a few days.
They are in your face, sleeping in your bed, sitting at the table for dinner.
In the begining, as much as we are happy they are home, it is also another huge change and upheaval.
No longer can you do as you please and make your own choices. I had to be careful about how much time I was spending on the computer or the phone.
I don't know about all MLC'ers, I can only speak for my Husband. But he was very needy, and a bit whiny.
It seemed like he was very insecure at times and would make little comments like "Are you sure you really want me here".
One time I was very upset with him and he told me that he didn't need to be here and could return back to California if he wasn't welcome in his own home.
I remember telling him that he needed to be wherever it was that made him happy, but I was never again going to beg anyone to stay with me if they didn't want to be with me. (I must admit, that was a very liberating moment for me!)
At other times he wanted to assert his authority in the house and be the "Man".
This would drive me nuts, because in some ways he was trying to just resume his position in the household.
Maybe for him time stood still from the time he left the home until he returned, but for me it didn't.
He really had no clue as to what grades the kids were in at school. He seemed to forget that we had 2 kids at College, as when he left they were both in High School.
My older 2 were polite with him, but definately kept their distance. A couple of times my oldest Son really got in his Dad's face and it was so hard for me to just step back and let them deal with it, as Men.
My younger children were happy that he was home, but it took them a long time to stop asking when Daddy was going to be leaving for California again.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
