Can anyone answer this? Part 6

[brandnewday]

Absolutely, it is like a death.

I used to wish that my Husband had died, instead of just abandoning me, because it was like knowing a living corpse, if that makes sense.

But just like a death, you have to allow yourself to grieve and to go through the stages.

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance

IF you give yourself permission to do this, and go through the stages, you will begin to feel better. Honestly right now I think you are a bit stuck in the first 4 and are refusing to go to acceptance.

Go back to the begining Renee, and go through the motions.

One of the things I did that helped was to pack up all of the things that reminded me of him.

I repainted my house in colors that made me happy.

I moved the furniture around, especially in the bedroom.

I began to do little things that made me happy, like gardening and knitting.

A couple of times I went to the local library and checked out a bunch of James Patterson novels. It was a great distraction for me.

I had my haircut and got highlights, something I had never done before.

I would force myself to get out of bed early each day, grab my journal and drive down to the lake and write down all of my feelings and have my prayer time. It helped to do this each morning so as to keep me focused.

Renee, NOBODY here thinks you have it easy right now, we are all sympathetic to your cause, BUT your biggest problem is yourself. You absolutely refuse to listen to anyone, and each time another big event happens in your life, it is done by your own hand. You are your own worst enemy.

BEFORE you pick up the phone again, or send an email, or text, why not post here and get some advice. At least that way yo will have people guiding you in the right direction, insstead of freefalling.

Again, please understand that people want to help you, but if you refuse to listen, there is no point in posting advice.

Now Breathe..........

((((hugs))))