A new thread, a new outlook.....

[Can it work]

Hi MsM, PM, and Stacy

Thank you all for your input. I agree with what all of you have said but I have to defend myself slightly in that I have no intention of going any further with this new woman. I never did. I still love my W dearly and would never betray her like that.

MsM, yes it is really nice to get some attention from the opposite sex. Obviously we have to be careful that we don't let it get out of hand but it's a great boost for the confidence. In that sense I can see it as a useful tool for DBing. When my W first left me I felt completely unattractive. Figured nobody would ever love me again because the one woman who was supposed to love me more than anyone has fallen out of love. By getting attention again, I feel stronger inside. Knowing that I'm still an attractive guy only strengthens my resolve and belief that I can get my M back. If a stranger can find me attractive so can my W.

PM, of course I would hate for my W to be in the situation where she has guys trying to be with her. I don't doubt that it is happening though. I would hope that she'd make the same decision as me and decide it was too soon. I know I can never gaurantee that though. She still goes out socialising when I have Wee Man and I know she'll be drinking and dancing. She's also an attractive woman so she will be getting male attention. I'm never out at the same time as her now though so I have no idea how she's acting and quite frankly, I don't want to know. It makes no difference to how I feel about winning her back.

Stacy, as for the drinking in mixed company, that's the way it's always been where I live. There's quite a small population and everyone I know always has mixed sex friends. I know my W has always had male friends just as she knows I've always had female friends. It's never been an issue before. It may be different where you are but it's pretty much the norm here for guys to hang out with girls on a purely social level. In fact, the friends who introduced me to this woman were also women.

So, in a nutshell, it was really nice and flattering to get the attention but there's no way I'm going to act on it. There's still too much to fight for in my M and I'm not about to ruin all that by being with someone else. You can rest assured I'm not about to give up DBing any time soon!

Kev