I Never Imagined Being Here

[pearlharbr]

Did you follow through with robx's advice about boxing up W's stuff and asking her to pick it up? I think this is a good thing to do plus it gives you a reason to make contact that isn't pursuing. I agree with beno that going dark is not the answer for everyone, but you cannot pursue her.

Here is robx's entire post from 4/15. I think you need to reread it because it's all good advice.

you are establishing push / pull,
you're seeing how she uses it,
you pull her towards you, she pushes you away.

Now that you know that this dynamic exists in your relationship, use it to your advantage.

Pack her things, call her, ask her to pick them up, since she has moved out, there is no use for her to keep her things at your home. If she asks why you want her stuff gone, ask her if she is storing any of your belongings at her place - obviously you aren't.

Plus with you moving her stuff out, it gives you an opportunity to do some needed cleanup around the house and gives you some ideas with what to do with the extra space in the home: more organizing, painting, moving stuff around, etc. Be vague.

Here's the tough part, assume the mindset that it's over.
Yes you just swallowed your tongue when I said that.
The sooner you do this, the mindset you will adopt afterwards will be more attractive and she will be more comfortable around you, it will draw her in because you are no longer pulling her in.

Tough idea to put in your head, great idea to put into practice because it works.

Here's what it looks like to me: you are still focusing on your W instead of yourself. You're worried about how she will react to what you say/do, you're analyzing what she said to mutual friends. It's good to have the info but stop making it all about her. Drop the rope. Work on yourself for yourself.