pearlharbr has given very good advice. I am seperated from my wife and children, but going dark in my case would be construed as doing 'more of the same'. Try to do the things pearl said in regard to GAL etc, and as hard as it is let her initiate any contact and then do not answer immediately. Let the phone ring, do not answer the texts immediately, let her think you are getting on with your life. Is your wife still involved in the EA or is she now in a PA? How did you find out about the EA? The only reason I ask is my wife said the I Love You But......, became distant, no conselling, commited to divorce, and I think she is now involved in an PA. If you know your wife well enough you will have a gut feeling, and as hard as it is, she is saying and doing the 'script' as more seasoned posters put it.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
