I agree with everyone else - your H is a serious a$$. You, on the other hand, are handling yourself with grace and dignity. I applaud that.
And I second sandycay's suggestion above: put on some sassy shoes, leave the kids with H and get out of the house for some you time! I know they're just sitting in your closet wanting to go out and have some fun...
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g