Newbie - first post

[pearlharbr]

Go back and read your post just before this journal entry. That's the attitude you want to try to maintain. I know it's hard and this whole thing sucks, but your H is probably deep in A fog right now so he is not himself. If you do not want to actively bust up the A then you must be willing to wait it out.

Yes, you contributed to your issues. But don't beat yourself up over it. The best thing to do is work on you and become the best person you can be. Recognizing your own personal issues and dealing with them will be good for you no matter what happens in your life. And keep in mind that no one is perfect.

I may sound like a broken record but you need to take the focus off of your H and put it squarely on yourself. Worrying about getting the chance to do things differently still makes him the center of your world. That's not going to do you any good.

Get started on those new GAL activities! Do you have that pedicure scheduled? I know the snow the other day was weird but I'm convinced we're done with it now. What about dance classes, book club, and theatre? BTW, those are exactly the types of things I like to do!