Need some answers from posters in this forum......

[alexjadams]

It's not about bout changing him it's about him knowing what you are willing to deal with and accept from him, and how he should behave & treat you, if you don't like the way he treats you then he needs to be on his way

I'm still married legally but emotionally, and physically I'm not there

I'm not trying to change you (you seem very defensive, I wonder why?) I'm saying his way isn't right & your way isn't either he has his way & you have yours that's all

The underlying theme on all these boards are everyone claiming to be victims, we are put ourselves in those positions, them we complain about how our spouse don't see things the way "I" do

I wish my wife really left me, because I would be in a better place now then I am, besides I don't want someone who can love me on Monday and Hate me on Friday, yes there was days my wife was a royal pain but I never hated her. Not until now!

I have been in your shoes not as long as you have but I have been, I'm sorry you felt you needed to stay there that long, that is your choice, no one held you there that long, I admire you for trying for so long but it was still your choice, & once you decided to seek "comfort elsewhere" you should have left your husband and worked on your own growth instead of looking to another man (who according to you, don’t need them to) fill that emptiness, you could have sought charity work, helped sick children, there are may ways to fill that void, but all honestly you & your husband have two totally different views on what a "normal marriage" looks like

If I tell you golf sucks then it sucks (in my world) then if I marry a woman who loves to play, eventually I'm going to grow to resent all the time she spends golfing & not with me. I have a choice learn to play golf or leave & that's what you have!