Busting My WAW

[alexjadams]

Dude here is the cold hard facts

You will eventually find out she is in an Affair, also she doesn't want you and you keep beggin, give up on sex with her it isn't going to happen

1. Man up face that fact that she has made her choice, don't try to talk compromise, beg or plead let her walk!

2. Get away from the situation legally, Do whatever it takes to do this get a Lawyer NOW!!!!!

3. Close all joint accounts, shut off all monetary support

4. Do don't talk about the marriage at all if she tries to bring it up tell her you be more than willing to talk to her once her relationship with the other man has come to an end, but until then to you "it's like we aren't married anymore" that is how she is viewing the situation

5. Take this time to evaluate what you did wrong in this marriage & try to figure out what you didn't give her (this is a tough one you have to be ready to give yourself a long hard look at you from her point of view) IF YOU CAN'T DO THIS THEN TO RECONCILE WILL BE IMPOSSIABLE

6. Do not support her emotionally, she may call to try to talk about her actions or feel the need to explain. Simply tell her "we live in a free will society & she has free will to do whatever it is she wants to do" then tell her goodbye and hang-up

7. When talking about her treat her as if she is a past relationship, always use past phrases "she was my wife" "she was the love of my life" "she used to live here" remember anybody who sees her will tell her what is going on in your life & how you are doing, & deep down she will want to know, if mutual friends start to tell you what is going on in her life tell them you do not want to hear it (this will make its way back to her & she will get confrontational, don't get into it with her you will not win)

8. DO NOT CALL HER OR INSITATE CONTACT EVEN IF THE KIDS ARE HURT.. YOU MUST NOW BE MOMMIE & DADDY, if you have to arrange to meet to drop off the kids do it at your in-laws or your parents house someone you trust with the kids & someone who would be neutral about the situation! You must show her you don't want or need her. & if a woman can leave & leave her children this is a woman who is selfish and at this point in her life she don't really care about them any way

9. Everything you have ever put on hold or decided not to do because of her, now is the time to do it ! i.e...rearrange the furniture in the home, try golfing, get back to running or something you used to do that you used to enjoy

10. Box up everything that belongs to her or that has her picture. DO THIS NEATLY, DO NOT BREAK ANYTHING then place it in secure storage. If you look at it and it reminds you of her it must go

11. Reconnect with family & old friends, if you feel the need to share tell your family & friends only do not talk to her family & her friends make absolutely no contact, if they initiate it be polite & disconnect the conversation quickly leaving them with the impression that this is the best thing their daughter, sister, friend has ever done for you. If they ask questions tell them to talk to her. You cannot win these people over they will pick her side so no matter what & she has all ready thrown you under the bus to them anyway!

12. Gather all the evidence you can hire a private investigator, you may get divorced, you want as much proof as possible (NEVER EVER TRY TO CONFRONT HER WITH WHAT YOU HAVE OR TALK TO HER ABOUT WHAT SHE IS DOING!)

13. Change your look grow facial hair or shave your hair, be completely different than you look before, get a haircut or grow it long, buy some new clothing get a womans' opinion (not your mom or wife)Buy cologne your wife would hate but you like!

14. Every week try something new or different, take a cooking class, or salsa lessons

15. Do something online, facebook, twitter, poker or chess club do not invite or tell her friends or family

16. Learn to play the guitar or piano

17. Volunteer to help the less fortunate, food bank, homeless shelter, be a "big brother" to a young boy

18. Read, listen & watch anything you can find on Alison Armstrong

Most the WAW say what forces them to wake up is the fact they are faced with what they are about to lose or have lost

Before reconciliation happens she has to be open to it at this time she is not