I feel ya mlb. No one wants to be the fall-back plan. My W even went so far as to say to me last week that she doesn't want to come home a failure. Wow. So does that mean if she would have succeeded, then she wouldn't come home at all? Nah. I don't feel like the consolation prize AT ALL.
She is still fogged out. Her decision rests with her, and she knows it. She is just looking for justification and solidarity right now. Keep working on yourself and see what happens: Not only is it a good thing to do, it is the only thing we can do.
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