Renee.... I am getting the feeling you fell for the same thing many of us did when we got married. You thought you two were supposed to literally become one, and you lost your identity. A lot of us did that. It's the storybook, movie, song, TV version. But, I have come to realize it doesn't work. We should have become a unit, but we should have maintained out individuality. Together we could do things we couldn't do alone, but though combining our strengths, not limiting ourselves. There are better words, but I hope you get the idea.
Anyway, the way you stop thinking about him is by thinking about you. What do YOU want. What can YOU see yourself doing? Then live for YOU. You really will find that he occupies less space in your head as you use it for other things!
