S, you are already setting yourself up to fail. Listen, it doesnt matter if its MLC, WAH, or XYZ. No matter what it is, you still have to move forward in your life,because right now, he doesnt want you in it. You have no choice but to go forward.
Learn to accept the things you cannot change. You want to be friends, he doesnt. You want an explanation, he doesnt want to give it. No matter how many times you ask the questions, there are still not any answers. So let it go.
Are you going to continue to give him all this power over your life?
If you needed to contact him, you should have sent him a letter, or sent him a text. One text. If you got no response, you had your answer. Then you go to Plan B. You try to figure out how you are going to get this bill paid. Could you go to a legal aid lawyer and find out if he is responsible. Is there a way to get a payment plan? If he is responsible, is there a way for the tax bureau to get him to pay? See what I mean?
Look, you never know what the future holds. No matter if he is MLC or WAH, the db steps are the same - detach, GAL, stop going down cheeseless tunnels. Dbing is really to get the best life you can, to be the best person you can be, and once in a while, it saves marriages too.
