Me, H was a bit late tonight, but made it over for leftover homemade quiche. Yum yum!! He was tired & wasn't feeling that great, and thus wasn't very talkative. We did have our usual martini and chatted a bit. I asked him if he had gotten any D paperwork. No he hadn't. I told him that I did & that I had to serve him w/the pre-trial date & the M settlement. We discussed having his friend or my sister give him the papers sometime. I asked him if getting the big D was still what he wanted. He said, yes, because he still needs to pay off his debts & who knows he may loose his job. So those are his main reasons. Then he mentioned 2 people at work that got D just because of financial reasons & they were still living together and basically acting like they were M (except being financially divided). So that's that. We walked to the corner store, I put my arm in his there & back. He's still wearing his wedding ring on his middle finger. He did ask me what my work schedule would be for the next few weeks. So that is a plus. We have an event at work so my schedule will change. I will work from 1 or 2pm to 9 - 10pm each day starting on Saturday for the next 15 days. I also asked him if he would like to go out to dinner for his b'day next month & he said yes. We again hugged & kissed goodbye. I sent him home with some home cooked food.
Again, I'm please how the evening went. Not much else to say. This might not be the road out of limbo I wanted, yet it is a road & it's more positive than the other.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Sounds like a "great" evening to me. It's all good.
I think the sun is shining on your road.
Keeping the good wishes flowing your way, my friend....
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
How do you feel about being divorced but together?
Your showing each other more and more affection on each meeting, that is so positive!
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This might not be the road out of limbo I wanted, yet it is a road & it's more positive than the other.
Sometimes things don't work out the way we envisaged they would but the result is better. I think that is one of the reasons friends and families don't get it. But just because it isn't conventional doesn't mean it won't work, in fact imo it works better!
Actually, I've always thought that M was just a piece of paper. People will do what they want regardless of it (it most cases). So I am fine with it, that was me before M.
I have a co-worker that I've been talking to through all of this. She has never been M & has been w/her BF for 25 years!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Just stopping by to say hello, and hoping all is well with you......
(((((Hugs)))))
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
