Yeah, if she's not willing to speed things up, it'll take a while.
We don't have the grand masters thing in Cali as far as I know, but it makes sense to me. One more chance to settle before going to trial and racking up a ton more fees. I hope she will accept their verdict (and hopefully it's reasonable to you).
Definitely don't pay any more money to her for extras. Tell your lawyer. And tell her that you are already giving her money for the kids, so she should use that to pay for stuff!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2