Lewis, it seems like all I do is tear you down. Its not my intent.
Bear a couple of things in mind.
They don't want you in their life. It is not just her. She is not controling him in this, she is not some evil witch who put a spell on him. And why would you write she doesn't contact her XH, so she says Do you find it so hard to understand that when some people are done they are done? I believe her, and in fact since I believe her I understand better why she and he are getting more and more upset with you. She doesn't understand why you aren't done.
They don't want you in their life, not as a friend, not as anything. And it doesn't matter what you want, you're not going to convince them otherwise.
A month is a long time to you, it isn't a long time for them, and now since you broke down and had to contact him, yesterday you have done so again today. Lewis they are going to change their phone numbers or block your number. And then what are you going to do in an emergency? Bitch about them not taking your calls?
Your son is 18...your xh isn't responsible for his welfare anymore. That kind of sucks to say, but really? 18 years old he isn't a kid anymore, if an 18 year old is treated like a child, then...he is going to be handicapped in life and becoming a man.
Don't father's do this for their children? Yes. But I'm not going to supply my grown son money if he isn't working or going to school. I'll throw money his way to help him make ends meet, but only if he is trying to make ends meet. Or if I am still responsible for him.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
