Well then why do you keep telling him you are.. or why do you keep taking "a stand" with him? If you went back a few years would you be acting/reacting the way you are now? Or would you be doing something different? Yes.. I know you have a kid together but that is not "free reign" for you to react differently. To add to that thought....
"Maybe a good way to try and deal with him is like you would a spoiled child. Tell them once and then not again. Trying to convince him, being kind, respectful, etc...doesn't work. This is a cheeseless tunnel, try something else."
IMO you start down the "cheeseless tunnel" the second you start pointing it out. There comes a time where picking your battles becomes more important then stating your case. At the very least you will not be fighting with him.. or getting any feedback from him. Which could be good... for you.
"But, maybe not. And, yes the word....was purposely picked...."respect" means a lot to him."
It is important to most if not all men. I think his idea of "respect" is a bit skewed at the moment. At the same time I think you are showing him "disrespect". I say this because I have watched him feed off of it in a few of your interactions. Again from my POV the best thing you could do to show some respect is just not "say" anything. This is a complex topic and I don't want you to think I am putting you down or anything. Just there are times you really need to look at the whole situation and see if you will move forward or backward with pointing things out. Maybe if I get some time tonight I will go into this some more.
"I think that he is getting meaner."
This is completely expected.
"My fault. Always my fault."
You know better than that. The second you start believing it.. the better off you will be.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
