Learning to Detach

[kjensen]

Update: H arrived at our house after I'd left for work. My daughter called me at work regarding some confusion as to who was driving the girls to a school function this morning. Asked to talk to H on the phone to see if he'd be there for the sprinkler repair guy or if I needed to be there. He sounded hesitant to talk to me on the phone but I was upbeat and asked him how he was. He said he'd been in his meeting most of yesterday and had been very sick(GI stuff)-felt just awful. Wanted to quit all of his pills... I sympathized and was compassionate. He later emailed me venting about a client and said he'd see me at lunch. Kids were gone at lunch so we talked briefly. H said he'd laid around most of weekend, gone on a bike ride. H was surprised to hear about D13's new crush-realized he's missing things (DUH!!!)

H said he was willing to go to communication class a few more times at least(he'd talked to his therapist about it). Stated emphatically it was to learn better communication skills and NOT to resolve marital issues. I said I totally understood and had no expectations.

Funny thing-I picked kids up from their school thing and dropped them at home before heading back to work. My H was outside talking to a new neighbor that had moved in across the street from us(I hadn't gotten the chance to yet). Just thought it was funny since he doesn't live with us, that he's getting to know the new neighbor.

Overall things were pleasant and hopefully tonight will be a good class(active listening!!). :-)