Maybe a good way to try and deal with him is like you would a spoiled child. Tell them once and then not again. Trying to convince him, being kind, respectful, etc...doesn't work. This is a cheeseless tunnel, try something else. He continues to hurt you because he can and if he can vent his feelings on you, then he won't have to do it w/ OW or her kids. If you want to stop him hurting you, treat him like you would someone you are doing business with...make your exchanges with him about business. K is your reason to have any interaction with him at all, that is the business at hand, so treat it as such. If you can cut out all of the personal feelings (easier said than done, I know) and treat it as a purely non-emotional transaction, then he will no longer have any power over you and will have to vent those feelings elsewhere.

Please know I am not saying that you should treat K like "business", just the interactions with H about her. Its really hard and he will try to suck you back in, but give it a shot because the contact you have now only benefits him. He gets to be anyway he wants and its ususally at your expense. If you take away that aspect of it (emotion) then he has no power over you. Just my $.02.

Last edited by Sugar and Spice; 04/28/09 07:38 PM.
M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option