Hey sis, you are a veteran, you can handle things better and better as time goes by. I know it's hard to have to face the truth at some point and not be misguided by our wishes and hopes but I guess we all do that when we are ready.
You are not a liar and your kids are confused but not because you have been trying to protect them from Dan's immaturity. Dan is taking advantage of your kindness and love and is trying hard to avoid any kind of consequences while doing his own thing.
Showing anger is not bad IMO. In comparison to being needy and crying and all that is much better.
Keep your mojo and stay cool. What ever is to happen, will. Just make sure you are acting in a way you will have no regrets later. You are doing fine. Love K
