WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[confusedinpa]

Plan it together. But keep it strictly to that.

Your problem is that you're jumping ahead of yourself in terms of not wanting to upset her if you don't respond, attracting her, etc.

Since you started your "separation" you have been there for her for everything. You have to get her to start missing you. That means NO CONTACT or very short contact. Just stay busy and if she calls just say you were busy.

Let her wonder about you.

That's a good point about wondering about me.

Last nite, I had called her at 8:30 PM to say good nite to the boys. She had made a comment about how she was going to call me but thought I had my therapy appointment late on Monday. I told her I did just get home, but when she's not going to counseling with me, I schedule my appointment at 5:00 PM.

She was very talkative after that and called me a couple of times afterwards (basically nonsense stuff). One of the times I told her I was in the middle of something so I couldn't talk.

I'm trying to make myself unavailable, but not at the expense of the boys. It's a fine line.

I had lunch with one of my friends today. She told me I need to be careful not to give her so much space that she decides that I've given up/moved on so there is nothing to consider anymore. Not sure if that's a possibility or not, but it did make me think....