How do I create mystery? I know I can make sure I'm not too available and not answer questions too detailed. But usually in the past when he talks to me he asks about what I've been doing. and if I am vague and say something like ' I was not home/was busy/ was out' He follows with specific questions like 'Where did you go?' and Who did you go with? If I say a friend he asks which one? So should I not answer these questions? or how do I handle this? Do I say its not important or none of your business(in a nicer way) How do I sounds mysterious without sounding like I'm dodging questions (or should this be what I'm doing?) or sounding like im lying.
Maybe I should stop worrying about how I'll come off to H. I just don't want to push him farther away as I did lots of pushing with my reaction when the bomb was dropped (before I found DR).
One of the many things H stressed as a reason why it wasn't working and he wasn't happy anymore was that we didn't have anything/enough to talk about (and in common anymore) so I feel like cutting all conversations short or avoiding questions may not be helpful?
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
