I still need a lot of work on myself. He is making efforts but I find it impossible to trust him. Yesterday he came home late but he called me twice to tell me where he was. And this morning he left at 5:30 am to work because we are going kayaking from 6:30 to 9 pm. I cannot keep myself from thinking he is going to the OW for breakfast... So I came to the BB to avoid paging him and hounding him.

What do you guys think? Should I talk to him? I always set the place and time for our talks, so I thought to tell him that I needed to talk to him and when would be the best time for him. Also my plan was to state calmly that I could not start healing while that woman is working for him, that I understood it is difficult for him to fire her and stop all contact and how does he think we can find a way around this.

Any thoughts? I know I will lose him if I cannot work this out. And I do not want to live again with the 'where is he? Is it true?' worry. It was much easier when he did not live here: at times I did not care and others it felt like I was the OW (the lover, the pursued one ...)

One good thing: our sex life is better that had been in years.

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"