Stress, WAW and life in general II

[mindfull]

AJ -

Do the kids have ANY idea anything is wrong? I would think so, since they are 13 and 11, and she sleeps separate... but who knows?

And, if she doesn't work, does she expect you to fund her new apartment and lifestyle? I remember reading that you had discussed finances, but I can't go back w/out erasing what I've typed!

I'm glad she's nervous about your feelings. She should be. She should be more nervous about her kids feelings. They have absolutely no say in this... at least you have had a voice (kind of?) until now... She's just going to to slap them with a bomb, and require (her version) acceptance.

When you (both) tell them, I don't see anything wrong with letting them know that you do NOT want this, and you made a commitment to their mom, and intend to honor it. You love her, and want her to be happy, and feel like this is something you have to support, as you don't want a miserable wife. I think it would also be a good idea to come up with an agreed upon time frame of separation. They need to know how long this will go on. I really wish she would wait until school's out for summer.

I agree with your "no lawyers" requirement. Screw the no abandonment clause. She IS abandoning you and her kids!