Hi Kalni. I've been catching up on your situation. While not at it nearly as long, I'm struggling with some similar questions and ideas.
I'm quickly moving away from her. Seems odd, but seems to help me out.
I admire what I've read of your efforts. I can see why you are having so many issues with this. I just wanted to pop by and wish you luck in your journey. I for one am inspired by your efforts and the growth I've seen through your posts.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."