I understand what you're telling me. While I was shutting down, my XF told me to see a counselor, but I didn't think it would be productive because I thought the problem was him, not me so I wouldn't go. I suggested that we go together, but he said it was me that needed to go.
Anyway, I have been battling this for so long and I'm tired. This R is not fun, it's way too much work. If I don't zip up my mouth and give him what he needs then it won't work. He does tell me however, if I meet his needs then I'll be the happiest person in the world.
Here's my question. How do I break up civilly? I don't think no contact is the best approach. I think it's more humane to just express my concerns. Suggestions on how to do this? I've never done it before.
