Wow. So sorry you had to go through that. It's got to be so hard on your daughter to hear all that crap. As a mom, I know you hurt for her as much or more as for yourself. Does she talk to you about how she's feeling? Does she see a counselor?
I know these guys are off in la-la land, but the fact that they seem to completely lose all sensitivity towards their kids' feelings is just unbelievable..... What kid wants to hear that kind of stuff from a dad who walked out on his family, or from the homewrecker who encouraged him to walk out? Maybe an adult son or daughter could handle hearing that type of info. from a parent, but not a child or a teenager.
I don't know if my ex has ever told my kids that he's in love with the OW, but before he moved out and for about a year after he left he told them repeatedly that he was leaving because he "didn't love mommy anymore." My oldest D said to him, "So what? How could you leave me and S8 and D4 (their ages at the time)? Don't you love US? How could you choose HER (bimbOW) over all of us?" He never had any answer for her.
No matter how hard my ex tries to justify his actions, what the kids take away from his leaving is this---They didn't mean enough to him for him to stay. They weren't worth sticking around for.
That breaks my heart. I just have to make sure my kids realize that is HIS failing, NOT theirs.
IMO, the letters to your daughter were a desperate attempt to justify, and to try to get sympathy from your daughter. How sick and messed up is that?
Last edited by tpaschal; 04/28/0910:16 AM.
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
