So... sunday's conversation ended horrible but did get a goodnight text from her later that night.
Today stuck to my guns didnt call her or text her like we normally do in the mornings. Got a text from her though. Convo went like this:
W: "Good morning"
Me: "Good morning"
Me: "Thank you for that"
W: "Of course"
W: "How r u"
Me: "ok i guess... you?"
W: "Same." tells me she is not carpooling today which makes a better morning
Me: "that's good"
Me: "Just so you know if you want to talk about anything I'm more than willing to listen I won't try and change your mind but i would like to be there for you"
W: "Thank u. I dont even know what to say, but i appreciate ur attitude about all this"
Me: "well when you do know what to say I'm here to listen and give you all the support that you need"
Me: "but this is still not what i want but i am here for you"
W: "all i can say is thank you"
Me: "your welcome"
10 minutes later... She texts me and says her friend is going through a really hard time with her husband and she might need my help cause her friends husband was acting crazy and that her friend might need me to protect her.
Me: "Ok just tell her if she needs anything ill help her out"
Not sure how to judge how well i did DBing. (critisim welcome need to get better at it)
that was the extent of our contact today.
I dont know what to do? went today and picked up DB and DR started reading DR about 1/4 of the way through it. Need help i feel so lost and hopeless but at the same time im trying to be optimstic and positive. I love my wife very much even through all the things in the past, and she claims to love me. I dont want my D to have to go through what i or my wife went through as a kid. I know we will both be loving and everything to my D but I dont believe that we have reached any point that this has to be it and that our only option is to go through with a Divorce and put my D3 through this. Also, because of my career i could be relocated at any moment due to the needs of my employers.
On a better note though i do feel a little better today than i have all weekend I feel little more positive after I started reading DR and the posts. And i would like to thank everyone even though your advice is not specifically directed at me it has inspired me to be positive and stay hopeful
Any advice i can get from anyone would be greatly appreciated i want this to work so bad my family means everything to me. thank you in advance for your help.
