Hello everyone First of all im new to this and forums all together so.... Here is whats going on with me... Been married 4 years this june and have a D3... W drops the bomb on me friday that she is done. She has been out of town for 4 months training for a new job. We have had three visits with eachother since she left all have been great as far as i knew... We got married at first because she got pregnant with our daughter, i know some people dont believe that is a reason to initially get married but we felt it was the right thing. The begining of our marriage was really rocky due to my own fault I was really distant, always second guessing me getting married, at some point i competely withdrew. We got past that some how but im sure we did not solve that problem in the long run. anyways, the next couple of years was a up and down hill battle we would have our good times and then have a really bad times. Our main problem i believe was that we actually didnt do anything to solve our problems the right way we just went on brushing stuff aside... anyways we both have done all the wrong things, typical stuff she wants something, she is not happy of the results so she starts complaining about everything and i stop listening all together, then she stops and i think everything is ok, we worked it out... You know there would always be random comments but no real complaining. So Friday i was caught completly off guard. She tells me that there is no way she can keep trying and that she has been thinking about this for months (now that i know about it she has been thinking about the same time she quit complaining, and about the same time she went out of town). She explains to me what her problems with me were...not helping around the house, doing things my way, not listening to her, etc. But this time she finally lets it out In a way i have never heard before and i completly understand what she wants now but she says its to late. She says she knows she doesnt want to give it another chance. So needless to say when she told me i freaked out and did all the wrong things begged, pleaded, tried to compromise, etc. I did tell her by the end the conversation that i would give her what she wanted and that i would be ok. Sat didnt go much better we didnt talk much messed up that day too though by calling a couple of times. 1 or 2 times was for legit stuff but the other times was just trying to call her and feel her out. Sunday morning i talked to her. She called me early and was crying saying she was sorry she didnt want to hurt me but she feels there is no other option. i talk to her and i tell her she is right i have messed up and and that i should have been a better husband. I say to her that i think deep down she doesnt really want to do this and she says of course she wanted it to work but that she believes its just not going to change and she needs to go be happy without me. i thought the conversation ended alright didnt ask her to come back but did tell her i was going to see a counsler even if its by myself and i made the mistake to say i was going to change but i told I needed to change anyways wether i was with her or not...then sunday afternoon i got weak couldnt take it anymore called her in the afternoon begged and pleaded again went as expected she got irritated and still the whole "there is nothing that can be done stop giving yourself false hope."
Post is way to long need to start another one give those who are reading a little break lol. Sorry for the grammar and spelling writing is not really my thing.
