Thanks Sara. That's an idea I may just use if the opportunity present itself. However, my W should already know my boundary. A few days after my W moved out, her strength weakened, and she came to me looking for comfort. I told her "As long as your involved with someone else, I can't offer you anything." If she still remembers that moment, she knows where my boundary is. Right now all of our together time has been centered on the kids, which I'm tolerating, for now, although I still wonder if I should. Before I heard of my W's affair "breaking up", we did have a little family time here and there, and it was quite strained. Now it's much more frequent, much less tense, and longer in duration. I don't know how my W feels about it, but it serves to remind me of what I lost, and is stalling my ability to move on. I can't continue like this forever.
