No. No. and No. to all of your postings above about interactions with the W.
Being cold/distant is one thing. Being there at her beck and call is totally something else.
Right now she contacts you when it's convenient for her. Well you have a life now right? Live it. You no longer have to see if she needs help or if she "wants" you to do something for her.
Stay busy. It's not a 180 because of what happened in the past. You might have been unattentive in the past, but you've shown her that you are no longer like that. It was a different place and a different time.
She wanted space. Give it to her.
I called the boys tonite to say goodnite. They were still brushing their teeth so I told her that I'll just call back since I just got in so I need to make dinner.
She seemed surprised that I got in so late. She asked if I had my therapy/counseling appointment this late. I told her no, since she's not going I scheduled them early/right after work.
She then started to talk about her day and stuff that was going on with her. I tried to be polite but then asked if the kids were ready to talk yet. They weren't so she just continued. After a few minutes, the kids came on the line. I chatted with them for a bit and my youngest handed the phone back to her. She asked if she could call me later tonite to talk about something. I said ok.
She called me back within in 5 minutes and asked if I wanted to sign up for bowling for the summer with the kids. I said sure, sounds good. She continued on for a bit and I finally said that I had to eat dinner.
She called me back about 20 minutes later and I told her that I would need to call her back as I was in the middle of something. She said ok.
I waited for about 20 minutes and called her. She chatted about some tactical stuff and then I said I had to get going. She promised not to call me again tonite.
I know I shouldn't have answered her call....
Very odd behavior. Talking with my friend who is a WAW, she doesn't think this is normal either.
I just don't understand what she is doing...
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
