Newcomer Looking for Feedback

[somuch2learn]

Four weeks ago, my W told me she wants a divorce after 1 yr and 11 months of marriage. I am guilty of placing my career before the marriage, but I still had no idea she had reached this point.

She has completely walked away from the marriage, moved out, and refuses to attend marriage counseling. I am in counseling alone in hopes that she may be willing to give it a chance. I have been using this website's resources for several days now, and will receive a copy of the DB book by the end of this week.

There is no history of alcohol, drugs, physical abuse, or infidelity in our marriage. Her biggest complaints are my neglect of the marriage due to work, and she feels I have become too conservative (socially, not politically) for her to be herself. This is my first marriage, and her second.

Many of her frequent statements for leaving are showcased on DB's homepage,"I love you, but I'm not in love with you, we got married for the wrong reasons, we have grown too far apart, etc."

I would appreciate any feedback, especially the no-holds-barred kind. I need help, and I need it fast, so don't worry about being polite. If anyone notices that I'm taking the wrong approach, please point it out to me.

Many thanks