Again, who knows why she did it (pass out presents in front of you). But you are obsessing on something you wont ever know and making your W the focus AGAIN. Who knows.. who cares!
Your daughter is 7 and she is old enough to put away clothes on her bed. You should have said... "gee, I guess we need to put more structure in place for d7 so she knows its her job to keep her bed neat".
Personally I would not have listened to a word about her trip. Once she brought it up I would have said "glad you had fun, see you later" and left.
Be glad you dont have to go there anymore and you have your own place. It will be good for you.
Flipping her the bird isnt nice and wont be a good example of your kids of a strong man. But moving on will be.
